Is it just me or does June feel like summer has officially arrived?! I mean, I’m sitting out in the backyard to write this post after we had lunch outside AND I’m wearing a short jumpsuit. (Also, I kind of have a super awesome summer bucket list printable for you today at the bottom of this post!)
Yep, it’s summer.
I’ve been having a few epiphanies lately. Or maybe the moody teen inside of me is just stirring again? (Please don’t, you’re annoying, haha!)
“I don’t feel like working all the time!” “Give me an adventure!” “Let’s just hang out with the kids and laugh with them instead of earning money!”
Uhm, yeah. That last one is maybe not the best idea…
What my summer bucket list has been missing out on in the past…
The thing is this though: The last few summers I spent almost all of my time working. We went on vacation and I was still working (I don’t mean snapping lots of pics for a travel post, I take them anyways because I’m obsessed – I mean working-working on my computer while my husband took the kids to the beach).
Now that my older girl is turning 4, I’m beginning to realize how much she is starting to remember. And I don’t want her to remember how mom was always glued to the screen.
In addition to that, it’s just not good for my sanity, my health or my wellness. Sitting at the computer all summer makes your butt look flat in your swimsuit, just saying 🤷🏻♀️ 😉
I’m so not good at balancing things!
But on a more serious note, I’m trying to tell you that I’m very, very, incredibly skilled at focussing on one single area in a very intense way – and forget about the rest. Which is not a very good thing if you’re trying to live an exciting, balanced, healthy life.
And it’s even worse if you have kids, because they will always need some form of attention. Not only do I feel like I’ve been neglecting my family in summers past, but I’ve also been neglecting my wellness, like… Always.
I feel skinny-fat now, because I never have time or energy to exercise. Only it’s more that I make myself believe I don’t have time. “What, a 15 minute workout?? But I could write and send an ENTIRE email!!” is what my head starts screaming, and then I fall into the rabbit hole of anxiety and FOMO and also the Fear of Never Accomplishing Everything on my To Do List, which is actually a very accurate feeling because I’m the queen of overloading said list.
But. No more. This is the summer I’m changing everything for the better. I mean, I do have wellness goals for myself and my entire family – I cannot stay on top of them if I keep doing what I’m doing.
So, here’s my plan for the ultimate fun, healthy summer. You know? Like a very personal summer bucket list.
No focusing on one single area!
I’m trying super hard not to focus on one single area in my life this summer. It sounds silly, but I bet a lot of us moms have trouble balancing all the balls we have to juggle, and it’s super easy to get caught up in one area.
I want to have a balanced, relaxing summer. I will not work like a maniac and forget to spend time with the fam. I will also not obsessively clean my house all the time (been there, done that – as long things are maintained in a clean-enough state, I will be fine with it. I hope.).
I will also not go on a hardcore play-streak and only play catch with my kids (because I’m equally prone to ONLY do fun stuff vs actually balancing things out).
This balancing act is my number one goal – I’m really hoping I can make it happen, because it’s not just something I wish for summer. I want to have this in my life year-round.
Focussing so much on one thing and forgetting about the rest leads to inevitable problems – either our house is in shambles or my business is going flat, or my kids start ignoring me because they know I’ll tell them to come back later with their question anyways.
It’s impossible to put off everything in favor of something else. Things need to be cleaned, kids need attention and a business needs to be kept going. My quest is going to be to do all of these things in a way that’s good enough, so no area will have to take over my life.
Sticking to a healthy mindset
And amidst all of that, I obviously want to stick to raising a healthy family, too. I’m so passionate about my kids growing up in a healthy environment. And I personally feel awful if we don’t eat right/don’t move around/don’t laugh together/I don’t get personal fulfillment (like from my work!) – which all comes down to a holistic approach to healthy living in my opinion.
I find it’s super easy to kind-of-sort-of forget about the whole healthy living aspect during summer…
Yes, I want us to have an awesome time – but no, that doesn’t mean we have to go out for ice cream every day and drink sugary lemonade and eat mayo-laden potato salads all season long (ha! that one snuck up on me – I h-a-t-e mayo salads and just had to re-confirm my stance on the matter; moving on 😅). Sometimes the soul needs to be fed with ice cream, but if I do it every single day, my body starts feeling pretty crappy. That’s not #goals.
We can have a balanced and fun and healthy summer, right? Right. We can go for ice cream occasionally (WITHOUT feeling guilty!!!!) and we can make healthy homemade lemonade and iced tea; and btw we can make healthy BBQ sides, too. Greek Pasta Salad, anyone?? And I have a Greek Yogurt Potato Salad recipe coming up that’s out. of. this. world!
Making time for myself (and my marriage!)
My husband recently got super mad at me because I kept saying how I’m a bad mom for working so much.
At one point in the “argument” (it was more a case of him being exasperated and me crying) he told me to stop feeling sorry for the kids and start feeling sorry for myself. Because apparently he thinks I give our kids more than enough love, but forget myself all the time.
Sound familiar? I know. We’re always bottom of the list, right?
I’ve been setting work aside a little more to relax in the evening, read, watch TV with my husband, go to bed before midnight… And it has been SO good.
And I told you how I’m not exercising even nearly enough because I think it’s not important bought to warrant me spending time on it, right? Well… I really shouldn’t do that.
AND the best part is, a lot of the whole “being active” and “moving our bodies” thing is something we can do WITH our families, too. I’m planning on having less screen time and more fun family activities like hiking, swimming and biking this summer.
But also, I want to do things just by myself, for myself. I really want to get back into a yoga routine. And some toning and cardio exercises. I just need to set aside the freaking time, without crying over how many words I could be writing instead.
Being OK with being OK
I’ll be the first to admit to chronic perfectionism and terrible OCD tendencies on my part.
Wait, tendencies? Forget I said tendencies. I meant full-on manifestation.
I have this thing where I’ll browse Pinterest for hours to find the perfect living room decor… And then leave my actual living room undecorated, because if I can’t get it perfectly right? I prefer doing nothing at all.
Which, uhm, gets in the way of living a peaceful life quite a bit. This is another thing I’m desperate to quit doing altogether, always and forever, so I might as well start tackling it now.
I will be OK with being the best mom and housekeeper and business woman I can be. I, ME, MYSELF.
The plan is for me to stop looking at what others are doing, focusing less on my weak spots and instead strengthening what I’m really good at.
So, I suck at pretend-playing? I will not be doing that and I don’t have to. I can silly-talk and laugh with my kids all day long, and that is good enough.
I hate doing laundry? Well… There’s my husband who is awesome at laundry. And I can focus on our meal planning and food prep, because I just rock the house when it comes to that.
So… I burn out by sharing five new recipes a week on this blog? OH SNAP, I just quit doing that, like, this week and am re-focussing on what I’m good at: Inspiring YOU to live your best life, while I figure out how to live my best one, too.
A little help for you with that…
So. You’re in tears now, because you passionately nodded along all the way? I know, me too.
But even if you’re not as prone to getting teary-eyed as I am (seriously, it’s a problem – I cry when I watch Modern Family), you might feel like you’d love to have someone to hold your hand while you’re creating a better summer.
Enter: The Healthy Summer Bucket List for Happy Moms and Kids!
I made this super fun healthy summer bucket list printable to help both you and me get through summer in a balanced, happy and heeeeella awesome way.
And the best part is, I want to give it to you in exchange for just a tiny favor: Become email BFBs with me?
If you subscribe to my email list in the box right below, you’ll receive updates from by email AND you’ll immediately get an email with a link to download your free bucket list, plus access to all my other free printable, guides and ebooks!
I promise, it’s fun to be on my email list, AND you’ll never miss a healthy living tip / healthy recipe / friendly face when you need it.
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Alright babes, here’s to an awesome summer! ☀